Yo, that is so good to know!
Wish there was a link to some quick stylesheet guide that kbin supports when you write a comment. Haven't seen this feature before.
Alternatively, upvote/boost your own posts by default when posting.
I've struggled with this question before myself. On the one hand, there is a notable impact in visibility on posts which I've self-upvoted versus posts which I did not self-upvote, so it does feel like an unfair advantage. On the other hand, I am also a community member in the community I post. I wouldn't post something, if I didn't think it contributes to the overall community. Plus, there's a bug in kbin going on, that new posts only show up in new but not in hot at all, until there is at least some sort of interaction (a comment, or an upvote, or a boost).
Sounds like a lot of personal problems, wish you all the best with them!
Regarding the funding, do you think you can set up an alternative way of donating that accepts other payment options like PayPal? Personally I'm not using a credit card, which is the only payment option one can use on your buymeacoffee.
Actually, this bug is the reason I started upvoting my own posts in the first place. However, I THINK it's been fixed for some time now though. I can see my posts sorted by hot on the magazine I post to without upvoting them.
Lemmy also has the automatic upvote? That is so interesting to know! Maybe there should be a standard protocol for this behaviour.