no one’s arguing that they can’t make up their own rules.
also let people on other instances believe whatever they want; it has no bearing on you and you can block them and entire instances for yourself if you need to.
i don’t want power tripping mods/admins or suppressive policies to make that decision for me; that’s why so many people and I left reddit; i’m an adult who can make up my own mind and the lemmyverse already has the tools to empower me to do so.
this isn’t reddit or a walled garden; in the fediverse it’s the vegetables section of a community garden that was designed to maximize cross pollination and defederation episodes like this are like trying to install a permeable gate that don’t stop that cross pollination.